Couple Therapy & Marriage Counseling

Couple therapy or marriage counseling helps couples who are constantly fighting, misunderstanding each other’s intentions or starting to avoid each other. Often couples call for marriage counseling and say, “we can’t communicate.” One partner seems to be growing ever more frantic and critical and the other seems to just withdraw further or get defensive or attack back. Every couple gets stuck at some point in this push-pull cycle. We can help you see your part and help your partner see their part. Our couple counselors are fair, even-handed, kind and empathic. Read our blog post here.

In the bedroom sometimes, the same one who wants autonomy generally, suddenly wants sexual closeness and the one who says they want more connection isn’t interested in sex. It can be so confusing. We understand that you may need emotional connection to want physical intimacy. Or you may need sexual connection before you feel safe to open up emotionally. We know both talking and intimacy are imperative to a couple’s bond.

Our deepest fear is that we’ve committed to someone selfish and if we meet their needs, they will forget about ours. In couple therapy we learn that our partner is reacting to deep seated survival strategies like fight and flight and so are we! Often one person is afraid of being abandoned and the other is afraid of being controlled or rejected. In marital therapy, we learn to see alternatives to our own ingrained ways of reacting whether it is to push harder or to clam shut. Marriage counseling will train your brain to be curious and vulnerable as more effective ways to reach your partner. Connection is possible!